Youngest kid of six with an inferiority and black sheep complex, but determined that God saves not just his soul to heaven but the remainder of his manic-depressive life, so others won't say he became a Christian and remained a jerk.
i won't be transparent before i'm opaque. and you'll get to know me starting from the small things: who my favourite bands are. what kind of movies i like. who are my heroes.
I’m convinced that when confronted with sincere, real love, the Jesus factor will become obvious. But let’s not plant the cross before we carry it. I’m not trying to con you.
Some dreams are meant to be achieved. I know that. But maybe other dreams are meant to drive us, privately. Never known to anyone but ourselves.
It is a sadness that, when choosing between crying and sighing, will choose sighing. I'd almost say that melancholy is being sad about sadness itself.
On memory and nostalgia
It saddens me when life moves forward and people decide that certain things are worth forgetting.
I've learnt that the word irregardless is filed as a non-standard word in the English language. That's a lexicographer's way of saying it's not a real word.
Crowds are fickle things. So when we stand in the thousands and cry against the present government, do we know who we're actually crying for?
People always want the best for themselves. But I want to sometimes take second or third or fourth best, just so that the loser down the road doesn't always have to come in last. It must feel like shit to always come in last.
On growing old
Leasehold property make me feel sad. It doesn't matter how old the family photos are that you put on your wall. It's your family but it's not really your wall.
I ask you, if God loves everyone, and if God is also incapable of loving evil, how can there be such a thing as an evil man?
On a daily basis
One line quips, like this.
Friday, July 14, 2006
Men have no excuse. For too long we've been hiding behind the excuse that "men don't like to talk", "men don't communicate well", "men are not so emotional", "men are not relational", as if these excuses were pulled out of the Genesis pocket guide to gender traits. It's not biblical and it's an absolute lie spun by the same kind of nonsense authors who bring you books like Women are from venus, men are from mars. It is completely and utterly unbiblical. Jesus was a communicator, Jesus talked a lot. He was extremely in touch with his emotions and he was always firecely relational.
All these men who come out and say "oh, we're just wired like that" are just plain lazy. Yes, that's what it is: laziness. too lazy to do the difficult job of emoting and communicating. how many times have i spoken to people who say that their fathers cede communication and emotions to their mums? is it a familiar story to you? talk to father: "how's work? how's money?" bam. bam. done. talk to mother: "how are you feeling? are you sure you're ok?"
I was recently discussing with a group of guys that fathers were all like that, and they all knew that fathers out there want to communicate, but they just don't know how. they make all these inroads but most of the time, they end up saying the wrong thing and it creates friction. it has to stop, but it can only be stopped if the sons of today stop hiding behind this phantom excuse that men are not built to emote.
Claim back that space man. Come on, there is nothing in the bible that justifies men being unemotional and unrelational, and Father God Himself is every bit the kinda guy who wears his heart on his sleeves and want someone to know it. If guys aren't gonna claim back this space which we've subcontracted for so many generations to wives then the communication and emotional gap between fathers and children is always gonna be there. Malachi 4:6 says that God is gonna turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their father.
Wake up man, all you men! The only way you can ensure that your children in the future don't have testimonies that begin with "my dad is the typical chinaman dad who doesn't show emotions and we have a communication problem" is if you take responsibility for your communication skills and start emoting like Father God emotes. It's a poor excuse, it's been used to death and what's worse, it was conjured not by God but by some postmodern chick author with a nothing more than a psychology major.
Let's not hear anymore "we're men, we're not emotional" cockledoodledoo. Because the last time i checked, you were created in the image of a fully emotional Father.
Labels: gender, society
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